Who is that woman in the mirror?

Who is that woman in the mirror?

Who is that woman?  She is more than her visual image.

She’s smack dab in the middle of midlife

She is a woman that is in her 50’s with a lot more living to do.  She has dreams to fulfill, goals to achieve, new things to learn, places to visit,  people to help, relationships to nurture and a life to live with purpose.


I know her better than anyone else, other than her Creator.  I know every event in her life that has brought her to this minute.  The moments of happiness, tears, joys, disappointments, laughter, disagreements, hopes and dreams.

She has reached a point in her life where she has more freedom and is looking internally at what is her purpose during this season of life.

Do you recognize the woman you see in the mirror?

Is that woman happy?  Is she living her best life?  Is she spending time on things that fill her up, or drain her?  Is she living a life of purpose? Maybe she’s feeling restless?

Past Experiences:

Our past experiences do help shape us into who we are; however, they do not have to define us, unless we choose to let them. I understand many have lived through some very difficult life situations and have come away from them with feelings of inadequacy, not being worthy, betrayal, abandonment, anger, etc.

I have seen people deal with those feelings and choose to move forward in a positive way.  They have chosen forgiveness to bring peace to their life.  I have also seen people choose to live, and relive, past hurts, choosing to numb the pain of rejection or hurt, and rehash past events to anyone that would listen.

For me, I let a lot of my past experiences guide me.

I feel very fortunate to have been raised in the family I was raised in, but there are instances where I have changed to be true to myself and my desires.


angry woman in the mirror
Not really happy with the woman in the mirror

Do you like the woman in the mirror?

I will admit there are times that I don’t like the woman in the mirror.  I don’t like a thought I have, a comment I’ve shared, a choice I’ve made, or a physical flaw.  If I dwell on those negative things, I can be an unhappy and miserable person.

My modus operandi (MO) is to disengage from relationships with people that drain me and are not open to change.  Since I’m not able to get away from myself, it’s important that I make some changes when I’m not particularly happy with myself.


What is her future

Sometimes it is just doing the next thing.  That is her future….doing the next thing.

If you’re not really liking what you see and ready to make a change, then do it.  If you’re not sure how to do it, I’m going to be sharing some suggestions in the upcoming weeks and I hope you join me.

Maybe you aren’t where you want to be, and that’s ok!  You can change that.

If you’re like me, you might be waiting until everything is perfectly planned out so you can carry out that plan gracefully.  Sometimes we can’t do things neatly, or gracefully, sometimes it’s messy.  We must push through that mess knowing that we’ll come out on the other side feeling better about who we are and liking that woman in the mirror.

Until next time…..

Remember that YOU are a beautiful and unique creation. YOU are loved and are worthy of love.


The woman in the mirror’s future is up to her!


Midlife woman smiling at her reflection in the mirror
Goal: To love and like that woman in the mirror

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  • Suzana Barton Reply

    What a wonderful article. Yes, I do like the woman in the mirror. I think she could have more patience though. And she could laugh a lot more and not be such a worry wart. All good things for my woman in the mirror to work on. (I don’t want to criticize her too hard though because all in all she’s pretty cool 😊.) I took a social media break and am just not catching up. So happy to read your husband is doing better now after his stroke. Sending lots of love your way. ~ Suzana Barton

    January 15, 2020 at 4:06 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Hi Suzana! Thanks for popping by! Glad you’re back — always love hearing from you! Can definitely relate to your woman in the mirror and patience. Totally agree the woman in your mirror is a very cool, amazing woman. Accepting that love!

      January 15, 2020 at 4:27 am

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