I choose to age gratefully

Aging Gratefully

I choose to age gratefully

Aging Gratefully

Since I wrote my last post about making a midlife change, I’ve been much more focused on my Top 10 Goals for 2019 . I have a pretty thorough plan, but I don’t have complete control of circumstances that arise. I DO have control of how I handle them, though.

In just the past couple of weeks, since I’ve started to focus on my health, I’ve encountered quite a few things that could easily derail my focus.  It’s very easy when things get complicated to take a break from taking care of myself and my needs.

That’s not healthy. I need to stay strong and healthy, particularly when life gets a little more stressful.  I’m talking strong mentally, spiritually, physically and keeping my home in order, because that’s important to my sanity


As I’m aging chronologically, my body and mind are aging, as well.  Yes, I can ignore that and say that age is just a number, but reality is my bones and joints have endured a lot through the years, my mind does need a break from constant stressors, my digestive system has changed over the years, and it needs to be honored, and for me I have found that I need to adjust my 30 -40 year old eating and drinking habits.  I can no longer eat what I want, slide by on 4 hours of sleep, and easily be at my ideal weight.

That may sound like complaints.  I really try not to be a complainer. I tend to spin things in a positive light. But I can’t argue the facts.  As much as I am going to do my darndest to age gracefully, I’m also going to age gratefully. (Grammarly is informing me that I may be confused by using the word gratefully–lol……”oh Grammarly, humor me here!”)

grateful: pleasing to the mind or senses; agreeable or welcome; refreshing

I’m going to control my mind because my thoughts control my life!

I can feed my mind the right things and free it from destructive thoughts.  Destructive thoughts could be a “woe’s me” mentality, a prideful mindset, or temptations.

The way that I control my thoughts is to spend some quiet time in meditation, focus less on me and more on helping and supporting others, and truly being grateful for where I am on this given day, no matter my situation.  It’s not easy all the time.

There is much to be grateful for, would you agree?  We can all find, even in our hardest times, something to be grateful for.  A grateful journal is an idea of a way to get your mind focused on the right things, the things that bring you joy and hope even amidst challenging, or sad times.

There is much to be grateful for, would you agree?

In my quest to age GRATEFULLY, today I am grateful for:

  • Friends that encourage me to live a healthy lifestyle
  • A husband that tells me he thinks my age spots are cute
  • My bioidentical hormones kicking in and I’m noticing a difference
  • My grandpa living a long and full life and passed on peacefully
  • My Vitamix that makes it possible for me to get a lot of nutrients into my body….see we can always find something!
  • My Doctor check-up that showed my first high BP reading ever, so that we can address it early
  • My kids and the wonderful young adults they have become
  • A large family of inlaws that works together to address a medical need in the family
  • The wisdom and ability to choose my battles wisely

I could go on.  Tomorrow, I know I will find other things to be grateful for, no matter what the day may bring.  I bet you can too!

Cheers to aging gratefully, friends!

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Comments (28)

  • Rosemary Davis Reply


    I agree with you that Aging Gratefully is the key to Aging Happily!
    No matter the stage of life, the key to being happy is accepting the changes as they are happening and being grateful.
    You are definitely a wonderful example to follow.
    Thanks for sharing your encouraging thoughts!

    Rosemary xoxord

    August 4, 2019 at 1:31 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Yes, Rosemary….so agree! No matter the stage of life and thank you so much for stopping by!
      Xx Melanie

      August 4, 2019 at 6:18 pm
  • LeAna Reply

    Beautifully said, Melanie and spot on! A perfect reminder to find our blessings.

    August 4, 2019 at 3:15 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you LeAna <3

      August 4, 2019 at 6:17 pm
  • Hilda Smith Reply

    Love it…I agree with you…

    August 4, 2019 at 7:05 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you Hilda!

      August 5, 2019 at 12:26 am
  • Molly Reply

    Well you know I am all about aging gratefully! Great post my friend!!

    August 4, 2019 at 7:38 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      You are and a great example, Molly! thanks for stopping by <3


      August 5, 2019 at 12:25 am
  • Suzana Barton Reply

    Living in a place of gratitude really does seem like the secret Fountain of Youth. This article was full of wonderful reminders. Loved your statement, “I’m growing old gratefully.” …You’ve convinced me that I need to start gratitude journaling again.
    ~ Suzana Barton

    August 5, 2019 at 2:46 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Oh yay!! Do it Suzana!

      Amazing that there really are little nuggets every single day to be grateful for. Right now, I’m grateful that we were brought together and our friendship has grown through a difficult health situation, but it’s a treasured friendship:)

      Hugs, Melanie

      August 8, 2019 at 8:58 pm
  • Jess Reply

    Hi Mel!
    I do love how you put it as I think I’ve been more mindful and grateful for things in my later years. Sounds like you have wonderful goals too.
    I enjoyed reading!
    Jess xx

    August 5, 2019 at 10:19 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Hi Jess!
      So glad you stopped by….aging has it’s positives. Like, you said being more mindful and grateful.
      I’m going to hop over to your blog soon….always enjoy reading:)

      August 8, 2019 at 8:56 pm
  • Peta Sklarz Reply

    Love this Melanie 💗. I like how real you are. I agree That. Age is a number but our bodies change for sure and we have to be aware of that.

    August 5, 2019 at 3:39 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Thank you Peta! I’m glad you like how real I am, sometimes I think others may wish I wasn’t as real:) Just who I am-lol


      August 8, 2019 at 8:54 pm
  • Juliet Reply

    It’s true that as we age what our mind and body need go through changes as well. I can no longer eat anything fried – without paying a price – and while I’ve never been a big drinker, even the smallest glass of wine can lead to feeling dreadful the next morning. I like to joke that at a time in my life I’m ready to let go and enjoy myself more, my body won’t allow it. Great post … this really resonates with me. xo

    August 7, 2019 at 1:10 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Hi Juliet:
      Sugar has been my culprit as I age. Like you, never been a big drinker, but have realized how important it is to up my water intake.
      Thank you for stopping by and letting me know you were here <3

      August 8, 2019 at 8:53 pm
  • Terri Cnudde Reply

    Love this post so much Mel! Thank you for the phrase “aging gratefully”. I will remember that! And that is what I do every day. We are so, so fortunate!

    August 7, 2019 at 3:01 am
    • Melanie Reply

      Yes we are Terri! We need to remember to make each day count!
      XX Melanie

      August 8, 2019 at 8:51 pm
  • Jannuth Carroll Reply

    This is a wonderful insight, Melanie. I agree with you totally. Those who think otherwise have had few or no health issues. I believe, like you, that we must address each obstacle and tackle each one with sound medical literature. Prayer keeps me together through health trials. You are on target!!!!

    August 7, 2019 at 2:39 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      So important for us to not take our health for granted. Prayer keeps me together through all trials:)

      August 8, 2019 at 8:51 pm
  • Jannuth Carroll Reply

    Being grateful is perfect. Seeing the cup half full even when others deny truth.

    August 7, 2019 at 2:42 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Hi Jannuth!
      So nice to see you stop by:)
      Hugs, Melanie

      August 8, 2019 at 8:49 pm
  • Stephanie Reply

    Beautifully written, Mel. An honest look at our aging. I turn 60 this month and it’s a regular reality check as to how I’m doing at being fully alive.

    I’ve lost 2 really dear friend at their 60th bday. They never got to see their girls married or hold their Grand babies. When you look at the alternative, growing old is a blessing!

    August 8, 2019 at 3:43 am
    • Melanie Reply

      So agree, Stephanie! So sorry for the loss of your friends. That’s never easy.
      We need to remember that each day is a blessing! Happy 60th birthday MONTH!!

      August 8, 2019 at 8:48 pm
  • Theresa Muth Reply

    Love the idea of aging gratefully. Just yesterday I was so thankful my body let me hike and I took a moment to really appreciate that fact. You are very lucky to have friends who encourage you to live a healthy lifestyle!

    August 27, 2019 at 4:22 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Yes! You’re living gratefully. You’re appreciative of your abilities to be able to hike even though you may not be as quick as when you were younger:)
      Thanks for stopping by Theresa!
      Xx Melanie

      September 7, 2019 at 2:02 am
  • Angie Reply

    Hi, Melanie
    I’m happy to hear that someone who is being realistic is being grateful for her reality. I hear too many women insisting on being realistic and concluding that dying earlier is better than suffering through illness or losing their children first. I am an optimistic person, grateful every day and I believe in the power of the mind. I like how you addressed the way your mind demands a break and to be taken care of just like your body does when it gets older. Yes, aging is a result of experiencing the world we live in and coping with it longterm. Excellent post! – Angie, http://www.yourtrueselfblog.com

    September 10, 2019 at 8:05 pm
    • Melanie Reply

      Hi Angie:
      Thank you for stopping by! Sounds like we think alike:) It is a choice we all have to make. Xx Melanie

      September 21, 2019 at 4:03 pm

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